Getting closure is ideal after any breakup. Sometimes you get the whole truth and nothing but the truth and other times, you might get a half-truth, and vice versa. A breakdown in communication somewhere in the relationship seems to be the cause for some breakups. I can attest that it was the cause in my last one. This Summer seems to be a time of closure for me. Not only did I get closure from Mr. Jetsetter but I also got closure from Mr. Batman.
It’s been about 7 weeks since I broke up with Mr. Jetsetter. It hasn’t been easy moving on. The hopeless romantic part of me had some hope left. But the more I think about how humiliating and painful this has been. The process of having to let go of the guy that I thought about spending the rest of my life with didn’t choose me and our relationship in the end. I’m a fighter. Not a quitter. The only time I may stop fighting for something is when I realize that it’s an impasse at an endgame.
As I was leaving days ago, Mr. Jetsetter said, “Love you. Bye.” What? Did I hallucinate? Is it too soon? I know him since mid-April. We’ve talked alot, texted alot, skyped alot , seen each other since then. So why isn’t this the right time? Maybe romance in real life exists?
If your intuition tells you that it’s the “right” time to say it, then say it. But then again, do you believe in what society tells us about letting the guy say it first? What if you both feel the same way in terms of loving each other but never say it for whatever reason?
Love does have multiple meanings. It doesn’t have to be romantic love it could mean I care so deeply for you that I would do things that I wouldn’t do for someone else. You can have family love and friend love.
Maybe it’s all about the give and take. So many questions again. Does love or saying, “I love you” or “I’m in love with you” kill the relationship if one does not feel the same? It feels good to have feelings of reciprocation but if the feelings are not reciprocated then it will feel horrible! Is there a right or wrong moment to say those three little works or five little words?
P.S. In case you were wondering, I feel the same way about Mr. Jetsetter as he does with me. #truelove #lovemetruly #FriendLove?
Quick update on life: Mr. Jetsetter and I are going pretty well. I really like him a lot. Where was he all my life? He’s totally a keeper. I seem to be spending a lot of time with him. Which brings me to the topic of not forgetting your friends.
I can’t tell you the times when I have had acquaintances or friends that got in a relationship and forgot about their friends or the things they liked doing before they got in the relationship that they won’t do anymore. Yes, sometimes we have times when we are busy but that is no excuse for not doing the things that made you interesting and made you YOU.
Are we not individuals? Therefore, when you are part of a couple, you are two individuals. Not One! Even if 1+1=2. We have to maintain our own identity. We have to keep doing the things we did before we became a couple. Support each other to keep your friends (some will probably mesh together). Support each other’s interests. Obviously, you both have to COMMUNICATE. Therefore, if you keep your own interests and friends then you will have things to keep your relationship fresh other than talking about things you read, saw on TV, or heard on the radio. So what do you think about the topic? Have you lost yourself in your relationships?