The first time I heard of “throuples” was on the latest season of Shameless and now Schitt’s Creek had a storyline. Are throuples the new polyamorous relationship?
Urban Dictionary defines “throuples” as “a threelationship; a relationship with three partners.” It seems like a threesome relationship without the connotation of it being just about sex. Throuples can consist of two men and a woman, two women and a man, three women, three men, etc. Wikipedia defines polyamory as “typically the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships where individuals may have more than one partner, with the knowledge and consent of all partners. It has been described as “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy-monogamy.”
Could the throuples be poly? It’s possible to be poly, however, from throuples I’ve chatted with, they differ in which Partner A, Partner B, and Partner C are not seeking additional partners. They keep the relationship within the three parties. With Poly, everyone in the relationship can have a separate partner or partners.
If you watched Shameless or Schitt’s Creek, you know that it’s not easy breezy. Just like a two person relationship, a three person relationship will have the same types of issues except an additional party is added. The beginning is the honeymoon phase, just like any relationship. Things will be great. But eventually there’s going to be some imbalance that will likely spell the end of the throuple, just like in Shameless and Schitt’s Creek. It’s not for everyone.
I’m going to play devil’s advocate, can you imagine having an argument with two guys you are dating and living with? I can barely handle one, can you image two? Who do you take to your friend’s wedding? Both? Then fear that everyone will make the wedding focus on you and your throuple instead of the bride and groom? What about marriage? We don’t have legal plural marriages in the USA. Imagine, things around the house could be fixed and done quicker! Cooking dinner, doing dishes, having a partner for this and that, sounds so dreamy! Throupling may sound sexy but not all men and women like sharing plus the whole imbalance issue. What if you get into a throuple and the other parties like each other more and end up pairing off without you? What if you liked one more than the other or the other didn’t like the other. If you have are having a dilemma like me, in my hypothetical scenario, maybe throupling is not in your future. Just like any type of relationship, it has its pros and cons. If each party can agree to be honest and communicate, maybe things could work. Who knows? It’s worked for some and not for others. Do you agree, disagree, or have a maybe agree and disagree?
Until next time,