Out Of The Woods

Guess what? You know all that relationship work I wrote about earlier? Well, I have good news! Mr. Jetsetter and I are back together again. Hopefully forever! We are social media official! So today, is technically our 2 year anniversary since we didn’t break-up break up…

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The thing that sucks is that we live about 90 miles from each other and because he’s been busy with Grad school, we’ve only been seeing each other once or twice a month since Summer ended. It was a work in progress. Even though I had broken up with him, it didn’t take long for us to talk again. It was a whole 24 hours. It feel like a million years! Not to be cliché but maybe the distance made us realize that we are mean to be. Maybe it sunk in that if we lost each other, we would be broken and our pain wouldn’t be healed. It took me a while to admit to my friends that he was my boyfriend. They knew since day 1 of the break up that it wasn’t going to last and that it wasn’t a break up. More of a wake up!

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While we were “broken up,” I told him a white lie, that I went out with someone who I’ll call Mr. Aviator. Except that I didn’t. I had gone out with Mr. Aviator a year before I even started dating Mr. Jetsetter. To be honest, I didn’t go out with guy or talk to any guy. I might have been selfish and wanted Mr. Jetsetter to wake up and truly apologize and tell me that he loved me and wouldn’t let our love be broken. Moral of the story, don’t test someone’s love with a white lie. It can totally back fire.

We are starting off on a clean slate. Any thing hurtful that was done in the past isn’t a hall pass but more of a breakdown in communication. We are young and relationships aren’t always easy. They take time and work. Have you ever broken up and realized it was a wake up call? How did you handle it?

Until next time,

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Back to Paradise?

Sometimes things don’t go well in romantic relationships. It helps if you have good mutual communication. That way both of you can understand why things aren’t going the way that you think they should be going.  I’ve learned in the past that I truly wasn’t communicating my needs. This time the mancleanse has helped me realize what I might have done “wrong”. I used cut off  the problems in the bud and run instead of facing them head on. I should have stayed and really made my point come across and work on the relationship instead of ending it.

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I’m glad that I realized that I should have spoken up, attempted mutual communication, and expressed my feelings and what we both could do to fix any issues. Sometimes things are meant to work out, which I think my relationship with Mr. Jetsetter will. So what do you all think? Am I going about it like I should or do you think we should maybe seek additional help?

Until next time,

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