My friend Danielle says, “relationships are like seesaw. It’s supposed to balance out.” I couldn’t agree more. You can’t be too selfless or too selfish. There has to be an in-between. One person can’t be doing all the “work” as in pursuing, making the phone calls, initiating texting, sex, etc. It’s a two-way street. For example, if one texts then the other is supposed to respond. But if you are busy and can at least have the courtesy to text “busy. ttyb or ttyl.” then you know that you need to do it later. Hopefully the busy person will text you back saying, “sorry about earlier, I was busy but now you have my attention.” What do you do to bring the relationship back into focus?